november 11 - scorpio

scorpio is the most misunderstood of all astrology signs. they are all about intensity and contradictions. scorpios are the most intense, profound, powerful characters in the zodiac. even when they appear self-controlled and calm there is a seething intensity of emotional energy under the placid exterior. but those of us who are particularly perceptive will be aware of the harnessed aggression, the immense forcefulness, magnetic intensity, and often strangely hypnotic personality under the tranquil, but watchful composure of scorpio. scorpios are perfectly suited to being on their own. they are not social butterflies like some other zodiac signs and some actually prefer to live on their own that way there is never any issue of who controls what at home, they like to be in control. in conventional social gatherings they are pleasant to be with, thoughtful in conversation, dignified, and reserved, yet affable and courteous;
they sometimes possess penetrating eyes which make their shyer companions feel naked and defenseless before them.
the scorpion symbolizes scorpio, and that is no accident. much like the scorpion would rather kill itself than be killed, those born under this sign are in ultimate control of their destiny. it is life on scorpion's terms. others may find this overbearing and even self-destructive, but that is the beauty of the scorpio: they have tremendous regenerative powers. scorpios are intense, passionate, and filled with desire. they are also complex and secretive, so don't expect to get much out of them,
lest they become suspicious and exit stage left. 
in their everyday behavior they give the appearance of being withdrawn from the center of activity, yet those who know them will recognize the watchfulness that is part of their character. their tenacity and willpower are immense, their depth of character and passionate conviction overwhelming, yet they are deeply sensitive and easily moved by their emotions. their sensitivity, together with a propensity for extreme likes and dislikes make them easily hurt, quick to detect insult or injury to themselves (often when none is intended) and easily aroused to ferocious anger. they can harness their abundant energy constructively, tempering their self-confidence with shrewdness and their ambition with magnanimity toward others provided they like them. they are too demanding, too unforgiving of faults in others, perhaps because they are not aware of the shortcomings within themselves, and extravagantly express their self-disgust in unreasonable resentment against their fellows. this may express itself in such destructive speech or action that they make lifelong enemies by their outspokenness, for they find it difficult not to be overly critical of anything or anyone to whom they take a dislike. part of the negative side of the scorpio nature is a tendency to discard friends once they cease to be useful.
relationships with scorpio are always complicated, just like the person, their relationships are a series of extremes, they can be moody for no apparent reason. scorpios are known for their possessiveness and jealousy but on the other hand, they are extremely loyal. scorpios have an excellent memory and combined with an inability to let things go, they can hold a grudge against someone who did them harm forever, in fact a scorpio rarely if never forgives and forgets.
on the other hand, they will always remember a kind gesture forever and repay it.
any kind selfless gesture done to a scorpio will gain trust and respect which is extremely important to them in any relationship, either romantic or not.
the best advice is to be honest with a scorpio friend.
the person that a scorpio respects and holds close to them is treated with amazing kindness, loyalty and generosity.
their truthful and shocking sense of humor if different than that of any other zodiac sign and the scorpio makes an amazing, powerful interesting friend that can be trusted.
scorpios are fortunate in that their strong reasoning powers are tempered with imagination and intuition, and these gifts, together with critical perception and analytical capacity, can enable the scorpions to penetrate to profundities beyond the average. but charismatic characters such as they can sink into the extremes of depravity if they take the wrong path, and the intensity of their nature exaggerates their harmful tendencies into vices far greater than the normal. brooding resentment, aggressive and sadistic brutality, total arrogance, morbid jealousy, extreme volatility of temperament, these are some of their vices. 
at the other extreme is the procrastinator, the man or woman who is capable of so much that they do nothing.
the scorpio-born are powerful and passionate, qualities that serve them well, as long as they don't let them deteriorate into self-indulgence or compulsion.
the element associate with scorpio is water. as opposed to the 'rolling seas' seen in other water signs, a better motto for scorpios would be 'still water runs deep.' those born under this sign are as emotional as their waterborne brethren, it's just that they're not as likely to show it. the scorpio's emotions are repressed, kept under cover. however, scorpios are clever, perceptive and don't miss much, since they are highly attuned to the vibrations of others.
they are intuitive, probing and very focused on finding the truth.
the search for truth allows scorpios to tap into their creative side, combined with their desire to do things their way, scorpios can be unique artists.
being so gifted, they can find fulfillment in many employments. any profession in which analysis, investigation, 
research, dealing with practicalities, and the solving of mysteries are relevant, can appeal to them.
they can become masters of the written and spoken word. they may be the most persuasive orators.
scorpio is the symbol of sex and scorpios are passionate lovers, the most sensually energetic of all the signs. for them, union with the beloved is a sacrament, an "outward and visible sign of an inward and spiritual grace." their overriding urge in loving is to use their power to penetrate beyond themselves and to lose themselves sexually in their partners in an almost mystical ecstasy, thus discovering the meaning of that union which is greater than individuality, and is a marriage of the spirit as well as of flesh. they are thus capable of the greatest heights of passionate transport, but debauchery and perversion are always dangers, and scorpios can become sadistic monsters of sensuality and eroticism. their feelings are so intense that even when their love is of the highest, and most idealistic kind, they are nevertheless frequently protagonists in tragic, even violent romances, "star-crossed lovers."
scorpio woman is very emotional, very demanding and very demonstrative. she is full of flair and intrigue, a fascinating woman that the strong a-type personality male will adore, for she presents the right amount of challenge with the right amount of rewards. the scorpio woman is the ultimate seductive, flirtatious woman. she won't give a man her heart very easily because she is weary of trusting another person. the man will have to go through a series of 'mental testes' in order for the relationship to get solid and close. she may not show it, but she wants a close committed relationship. in order for this, the man has to be trusted, has to be affectionate and never try to control her. 
she is very possessive but the scorpio woman is so full of mystery, sensuality and passion that most men do not mind being possessed by her.